The secret to a happy marriage…remains a secret.
Henny Youngman – American comedian
I love weddings. Fortunately, there are two on our calendar. As always, I will wish the bride and groom a long and happy life together, knowing all the while that the odds aren’t great. Between 40 and 50% of all marriages in this country end in divorce.
John and I attended one wedding a few years back that set a record. The marriage was over before the reception ended. We heard later that the couple had had a bitter fight during the rehearsal party, and the groom admitted to sleeping with the maid of honor. Not wanting to disappoint family and friends, they went ahead with the ceremony. The marriage was annulled long before the wedding was paid for.
At the other end of the spectrum were my parents. After seventy years of wedded bliss, Dad joked that he and my mother had an understanding from the beginning. Mom was allowed to make all the small decisions in their marriage. Dad went on to say how lucky he had been. In seventy years, it seems, there had been no big decisions.
Everything I knew about marriage came from observation. The closest Mom ever came to a mother/daughter talk was that day in 1960 in the bathroom as I sat wrapping my long hair around fat curlers. I was admiring the sparkle of my new diamond ring in the mirror when my mother began fiddling with things on the vanity and clearing her throat. Read More...